Showing posts with label self esteem. Show all posts
Showing posts with label self esteem. Show all posts
Look at your face, look at your thighs, look at your life - you my dear, need a make-over! - Part 2 of 2
(read part
1 here and thank you to all the open-minded and kind-hearted people who wanted
to join us and took pictures of their naked faces: you are beautiful)
It really is a confidence and self-image thing: If you just decide that you’re beautiful – come on, do it right now – if you just wake up one morning and wear what you want and act like you are the sexiest and prettiest person, even if you don’t feel it, even if you have to fake that self-esteem for a little while and just pretend that you like yourself – other people won’t see the difference - they’ll notice that you feel comfortable in your own skin and see how you move your body and act and I promise you, that your self-love will influence the way others perceive you.
You shouldn’t try to look good for other people, but for yourself – and I think most of us already do that.
We don’t wear make-up to impress a boy or make some girls jealous, we do it, because it makes us look more like the picture we have of ourselves in the head. It might make you more you and you feel better about yourself and when you feel that way on the inside, it shows on the outside.
An important addition: you’re not a special snowflake because you never wear make-up nor should we shame people who don’t – this is a personal choice and you should do whatever floats your boat and wear the amount you feel comfortable with .
What other people decide to put on their face/or don’t put on their face is none of your business.
The reason you might think other people like you, is because you look attractive – but it’s not, it’is because you look confident, centered and collected and maybe even happy and have a positive vibe around you.
That’s what attracts human beings more then 90/60/90 or muscles or a face sculpted by the gods – it’s not the double D or the big D, but two Cs: Confidence and charisma.
I once had a crush on someone who looked like a Greece god and had the perfect human body and a face beyond beauty. I learned quickly, that he had an awful sense of humor, no empathy or interest for anyone whatsoever and was as arrogant as you can get.
My crush on him disappeared faster than John Green can talk.
You can’t change your looks, but you can change your attitude.
That’s something I really want to bring across: looks don’t matter as much as the thoughts in your brain and your behavior towards other people.
Why don’t you compliment someone for an inner quality, for a good idea, a joke, their friendship – yes it’s nice to know that someone likes the way you dress or your lipstick, but clothes change, the memories fade and your hips, your boobs and facial features are not your choice, the way you act is.
You won’t get anywhere when you’re just pretty. But you can achieve a lot with a brain and a heart.
After reading all this, I want you to stop looking in a mirror and start looking into yourself.
Is this what you want to see? Do you like yourself? Are you happy with the way you look? Is this what you want others to “see”? Can you remember the last time you did something for someone, just for the sake of their happiness? Are you someone you would want to be friends with?
So here’s your make-over in 3 easy steps:
First of all, try to love yourself the way others should love you. Admire your curves, the way your hair feels after a shower, appreciate how your eyes catch the light. Accept your weaknesses and nobody can use them against you.
The second step is – be a good person. Be the best version of yourself you can be. Be gentle and caring, listen and talk back, tell jokes but don’t laugh at other people.
It’s the small things that matter.
A smile, a helping hand, give them your heart, your ear and parts of your brain when they need advice.
Or your butt if you’re into that kinda thing.
And the last step is: be patient. Nothing will change overnight, not you, neither humanity, you have to take small steps and it’s a bit of work, but you’ll see, that it’s worth it.
You are not your face or your cup size or your weight, you’re your decisions and feelings and passions and people won’t like you for your looks, but for your love.
Your appearance does not define your present or your future, has nothing to do with the people you want to be surrounded with, your right of a great job or your possibility to be happy.
Watch this:
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“Why do you put your self esteem in the hands of complete strangers?” (Helena Bonham Carter) - Part 1 of 2
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Disclaimer: i'd normally apologise for a naked face or for my face in general,because - i won't lie - it is hard to post something on the internet, but that would absolutly destroy the whole point of the following article so just embrace the make-up-freeness and the imperfections or don't, i kind of don't care anymore)
We always try to be our best selves.
Personality-wise…sometimes….
Character-wise….rare….we’re not always as polite as we could be, as helpful, honest or as caring as we actually could be. Because we are lazy and self-centered.
But you know what we always try to be the best at? Looking good.
For most of us it’s a confidence-thing – the better we look, the better we feel,
we feel powerful and attractive and like we could get whatever we want because that’s how our society works – the better you look, the hotter you are the more you can achieve.
But why is that the way how things work?
Why do so many things depend on our appearance and not even on our perspective of it - if we like it - but we count on other people to like our face and body.
Doesn’t this sound weird to you?
Why is so much influenced by the fact that strangers find us beautiful?
I can give you an answer – because we think beauty equales happiness.
Bare in mind, Beauty is not a strict concept. It’s subjective, so basically we all are trying to reach a goal that’s not even defined.
Did you
ever consider that even if the whole world thinks you’re stunning, but you cry
looking into a mirror, their opinion doesn’t count in that case?
You can look like the love child of David Beckham and Adriana Lima and still be so unhappy that you want to kill yourself.
Beauty means nothing without the right mind set.
Others can say whatever they want, if you don’t see it that way, it’s wasted energy.
Now think about it. If the whole world thinks you’re ugly, but you like the way you look – which opinion matters the most?
You can look like the love child of David Beckham and Adriana Lima and still be so unhappy that you want to kill yourself.
Beauty means nothing without the right mind set.
Others can say whatever they want, if you don’t see it that way, it’s wasted energy.
Now think about it. If the whole world thinks you’re ugly, but you like the way you look – which opinion matters the most?
And did this one thought ever cross your mind:
You are harsher on yourself than others
probably are and the mirror can lie.
Have a look.
For the sake of an experiment, what happens
when you actually do let other people
describe you and put your self-esteem in their hands? Watch this:
when you actually do let other people
describe you and put your self-esteem in their hands? Watch this:
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